Category Archives: Healing


I’ve had a few challenges over the past few months:

  • Problems with inadequate hot water system and waiting for new heating system to be installed. Therefore I couldn’t have my relaxing hot baths to help with fibromyalgia pain and have to boil a kettle to wash greasy dishes.
  • I had a fall and injured my right shoulder which is still causing me pain, and for unknown reasons my left hip has been extremely painful so sleeping has been difficult and I haven’t been able to work.
  • I had a stressful time hiring a car on my trip to the UK, I won’t bore you with the details.
  • I had positive news at my follow-up appointment after the Cardiac Ablation procedure and they said I could come off medication but less than two weeks later my blood pressure was shot up and I was getting the occasional arrhythmia episode, so I’m back on the medication for the moment.
  • My washing machine and TV remote control broke down.
  • The heating installation finally happened but during the coldest spell of snow and ice, the original one was ripped out and the new one isn’t very warm.

I’m sure there have been more events but can’t remember everything, the thing is, I would normally have been very stressed over these events making my medical issues worse but this time I just went with the flow. It wasn’t intentional but I remained calm and carried on the best I could. I was thinking about this last night as people have been surprised at my positive attitude throughout. I realised that I had surrendered to the situations because they were out of my control so I had been in a place of acceptance and didn’t dwell on the negativity of it all. This made me think about how powerful it was to surrender.

Why is Surrendering a Good Thing?

Letting go of resistance

When we resist what is happening around us, we often create unnecessary stress and negative emotions. When we are constantly fighting against circumstances beyond our control, we can become overwhelmed and feel powerless. Surrendering helps to let go of this resistance and allows us to be more present and mindful in the moment. This can lead to a sense of peace and acceptance, which can be incredibly powerful in and of itself.

Focus on What you Can Control

Focussing on what you can control enables you to take action and put your energy towards making positive changes in your life.

Faith in the Universe

When we surrender and stop trying to control everything, we can start to trust that things will work out in the way they are meant to. This can lead to a greater sense of trust in the universe and in oneself and feelings of inner peace and tranquillity.

Opportunity for Growth

I’ve attended many personal development workshops and courses over the years including Buddhist Retreats and one thing the Buddhists taught me was to embrace difficult situations as a way to practice remaining calm amongst the chaos around you. We know that being stressed and angry doesn’t help matters and can even make them worse by causing more negative situations through our behaviour in those moments. By remaining calm we can think more clearly and feel more empowered because we are not letting them affect us negatively.

Not Giving Up

It’s important to note that surrendering doesn’t mean giving up, it means accepting reality and working with it. It’s about letting go of the need to control everything and instead, trusting the process and flow of life.

Action plan for Surrendering for Personal Growth:

Surrendering is a skill that takes time and practice to develop. It’s not something that happens overnight. Be patient with yourself and keep working on it, it can lead to significant personal growth and inner peace.

  • Recognize when you are resisting a situation or circumstance.
  • Remind yourself that resistance creates stress and negative emotions.
  • Practice mindfulness and focus on the present moment.
  • Let go of the need to control the situation and trust that things will work out as they should.
  • Accept the reality of the situation and work with it rather than against it.
  • Put your energy towards what you can control and make positive changes in your life.
  • Reflect on the experience and notice any changes in your mindset and emotions.
  • Repeat the process when faced with similar situations in the future.

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Another Year Over (almost)

It’s been quite a few months since I wrote a post or article. I love to write and have missed it but I have had quite a lot going on since I last posted on here so I got a bit distracted. I’m looking forward to getting back to my blog in the New Year though. So, what have I been up to then?

Crazy, Hazy days of Summer

Unlike last summer which was so wet that we didn’t even get to use our new swimming pool until late July. This year was the opposite with probably the driest summer since we moved here in 2014. It was so hot and dry that there where wildfires all over France and it was quite scary thinking how quickly something like that can happen. We live in the countryside and are surrounded by fields and forests so a disaster can happen any time. Fortunately we were OK but we could smell the smoke from wildfires not too far away. Despite the heatwave and droughts we had a lovely summer though. July and August are the most social times in France, there are a multitude of Night Markets, Festivals and Village Fetes throughout the summer so it’s a great time for tourists and visiting family and friends. Having teenage children also makes for a busy time, especially since my husband Andrew built our new pool, they love having friends over and usually camp in the garden so don’t really cause us much disruption. My daughter was at some festival nearly every week, I would never have known there were so many festivals in rural France but teenagers have their social networks so they don’t miss out, however it does mean a lot of taxi services by us, usually shared between other parents though and hopefully next summer my daughter will be driving herself.

Teen Party Central at Chez Whelan
Night Markets
Andrew and Me at the last night market in Najac with a group of friends

You could probably find a night market every night of the week in surrounding towns but our regular local ones are in Najac and Villefranche-de-Rouergue. Najac food markets (Marchés Gourmands) are on every Wednesday night in July and August and there is a lovely craft market leading to the main square surrounded by a wide variety of food stalls where you buy the food you want to eat in the main seated are. There is a live band on and you can buy beer and wine and stay as long as you like. Villefranche-de-Rouergue have their night markets every Sunday and still gets very busy but has a different vibe, seating under trees around a band stand where local musicians entertain the crowds. In both case to ensure you get a good seat and don’t queue for too long, it is best to get there early.

Netfilx in the Aveyron

It was quite exciting for the residents of Villefranche de Rouergue this summer as they filmed a mini series in the centre of the bastille town. The series is called ‘All the Light We Cannot See’ based on the book by Anthony Doerr. They were casting for about a thousand extras too, Andrew took the kids down to register and thought he may as well register himself and he actually got called to take part for the last day of filming.

All the Light We Cannot See is a love story based in the 2nd World War about a blind girl who falls in love with a German Soldier. Actors Mark Ruffalo and Hugh Laurie star in this four part series that is based in Saint-Malo, they filmed some of the scenes in Villefranch-de-Rouergue because the town is much quieter than Saint-Malo in the summer and they where able to close of the town centre. The buildings fronts were changed to reflect the era of the film and some of them still remain. Andrew had a fantastic day on set despite the stifling temperatures and having to wear heavy army uniform. You can read a little more about the series here

Health Journey

I was very busy working this summer which was great but I still managed to make sure i exercised, mainly swimming because it was so hot. However, I did notice that I was having more frequent episodes of arrhythmia despite being on medication and I found it impossible to use the CPAP machine in that heat too, the humidifier was so warm and I felt like I was drowning. I tried to use the machine again when the weather cooled down a bit but there was an error message so I rang the suppliers and also told them I didn’t think the CPAP was helping me much, in fact I felt it interrupted my sleep more. The company got quite offhand with me and said it wasn’t my place to decide not to use it and they would speak to my cardiologist. A few days later an engineer came to take the machine away at the cardiologists instruction, so I think they have washed their hands of me! So I will try to resolve the sleep apnoea myself through breathing exercises and weight loss.

On a more positive note, I spoke to my doctor about the arrhythmia medication not working and she made an appointment with a cardiac surgeon in Toulouse which resulted in me having an ablation a week later. A cardiac ablation procedure using keyhole surgery to freeze and cause some scarring on the inside of the heart to help break up the electrical signals that cause irregular heartbeats. I was in hospital for just one night and the procedure seems to have been successful. When I first came round after being under anaesthetic for almost three hours, I was in a lot of pain and started to panic as I felt like my chest was being crushed but they gave me pain killers and the feeling eased off quickly. For the first two or three weeks the arrhythmia was worse but I had read that it is normal because the heart is inflamed and needs to heal. Now, two months later everything seems to be fine, I still have to take medication until I have my follow up appointment next week but I’m hoping that I will eventually not need to take that anymore too.

I have a shoulder injury and problems with my lower back and hip at the moment so exercise and work is quite difficult but I’m booked in to have XRays and an MRI in a few weeks and hoping that will also reveal any problems that can be addressed.

So I’m feeling a bit more positive that I’m getting on top of the health issues that hold me back from getting in shape.

The New Year

As always I have lots of intentions for the coming year and I will write about that in my next post so for the moment I’d like to wish you all A Very Happy New Year!

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Working With Energy


After speaking to some of my readers I’ve realised that they have seen my blog posts but not the separate articles that I write. These can be found in the menu at the top of the page and also if I mention them in a blog post there will be links to the pages within the post, usually found when a highlighted word is pressed. However, followers of my site don’t appear to get notified when I publish an article. So with this is mind I thought I’d include some articles in my blog posts. These will be more informative about the subject rather than personal updates on my own journey, however I will also be including personal experiences or opinions on the subject. I will keep the content brief and if you want to know more about the subjects there will also be articles in the menu that will be easier to locate in the future as my blog posts are listed chronologically.

So with this in mind I thought I’d write a bit about Reiki as it is one of the therapies I practice and also use it in my life on a daily basis.

What is Reiki?

Reiki is a simple, natural and safe method of spiritual healing and self-improvement that everyone can use. It’s a Japanese technique used for stress reduction and relaxation and also promotes healing. Reiki is a simple, natural and safe method of spiritual healing and self-improvement that everyone can use. The word Reiki comes from the Japanese word (Rei) which means “Universal Life” and (Ki) which means “Energy”. Reiki practitioners channel energy in a particular pattern to heal and harmonize. Practicing or receiving Reiki will enrich your life and give you happiness and health on all levels. Reiki is Universal life force energy, that sustains life and promotes healing in all living things.

Benefits from Reiki

  • brings about deep relaxation
  • destroys energy blockages
  • detoxifies the system
  • provides new vitality in the form of healing universal life energy
  • increases the vibrational frequency of the body

It is a safe, gentle, non-invasive form of hands-on healing. Reiki energy is channelled via the practitioners hands into “dis-eased” individuals for rebalancing and to help boost the body’s natural healing process. Reiki can also be performed distantly, where the energy can be sent to an individual who isn’t physically present for them to receive at a time when they are ready.

Hands-On Treatment

A hands on treatment would involve the individual to lie down and the practitioner would either lay their hands gently on their client in a sequence of positions or work in their aura a few inches above the body. Some practitioners may first scan the aura to see if they can locate any imbalances or they may start working on the body right away, usually beginning on the head and working down the body. It doesn’t make any difference how the treatment is performed as the healing energy of Reiki will go to areas that it’s needed. The energy of Reiki heals the Body, Mind, Emotions and Spirit. You and the practitioner may or may not feel various sensation during the process. Some people feel heat, tingling or pulsing and the practitioner may also pick up areas where there is pain or disease but not always. In my own experiences as a Practitioner/Master/Teacher I mostly see colours as I work and only recently have I noticed a subtle sensation in my hands. Some of my clients have also seen the same colours or feel sensations as I work. The treatment itself is a very relaxing and peaceful experience and the effects can be felt on a very subtle level or have a deeper impact. It can bring buried emotions to the surface enabling you to release them and move on with life in a more healthy way. It can help you find the motivation to make positive changes in life, give you the courage to let go of things that not good for you or inspire you to notice and act upon new possibilities etc.

Distant/Remote Reiki

This is when a practitioner will send healing to a person from another place, it could be a different room, building, town or country. They perform the treatment as if the client is with them, there a a few ways to do this:

  • Using a witness – this could be a soft toy, doll or even cushion. They do the hands on treatment on the witness as though they would with the actual person.
  • A photograph/visualisation – focusing on an image of the person or even imagining them between the palms of your hands.
  • Healing list/box – some practitioners have healing lists of people who they send Reiki to on a regular basis, sometimes they may have a special box they put the names into and hold this box whilst sending the healing.

In order to send distant healing to people it is necessary to have their permission, their names, location and condition are normally stated before the Reiki session. Sometimes an agreed time will be used but it is possible to send it out to be used when the person is ready for it. Intention is the key with Reiki. Faith or belief is not necessary to benefit from this healing system however a person who strongly disbelieves may quite possibly, consciously or unconsciously, block or reject the energy. In the case of requesting healing or sending healing to someone you can’t get permission from, maybe someone in a coma, a young child or an animal for example, healing can still be sent with the intention that it is for the highest good and will of the recipient. Reiki will not go where it isn’t wanted.

A personal story about faith

Many years ago my father in law was in hospital after having a serious stroke, the doctors were unsure at the time that he would survive. Every day I would send distant healing to him and one day I was stood by a harbour sending healing and I asked for a sign that what I was doing was actually helping, that there really were energies at work and I wasn’t wasting my time. It was a dark and rainy day and my attention was drawn to turn to the right to look over the sea, I was amazed to see that the dark clouds had separated slightly and the sun was shining through in the form of an angel. The sceptic in me first said it was a coincidence but I had asked for a sign, not an actual angel. I have never been able to find an image to resemble what I saw that day, I did see greeting cards with a similar shape of the angel in a shop shortly after and I wish I had bought one now. Maybe I will try to paint it one day.


The thing about signs is, it’s our conscious mind becoming aware of images, words or numbers, insects, birds and animals etc. possibly at times when we need guidance, reassurance or comfort, maybe even to alert us to danger. It’s as though our subconscious mind is trying to help us by drawing our attention to things that in ordinary circumstances we wouldn’t necessarily notice. Some people believe they could be messages from loved ones who have passed or guides and angels etc. whatever you believe they are there to serve you in a positive way.

Using Reiki for Personal Use

Think about what you do if you hurt yourself, the natural instinct is to put your hands on the area and hold or rub to try to relieve any pain.

Reiki is available to everyone, some people naturally use this form of healing without any training or attunements.

However it is helpful to have some kind of training and attunement to the first level of Reiki. These days you can even do this online but from personal experience I think it is very beneficial to attend a course or workshop with a Reiki Master. My training and attunements were over two days for each level. They involved lots of discussions and lessons on how to use Reiki in different ways, meditations, four attunements for each level and then practice on other students. With level two my master also asked us to provide details of our experiences sending distant healing in order to gain our certificate.

Ways to use the first level of Reiki

  • Self healing by placing your hands in various positions on you own body
  • Healing family, friends and animals
  • Holding your hands over food and drink to ensure it’s optimum goodness
  • Plants love Reiki and will thrive from receiving it
  • If you use crystals it’s possible to cleanse and charge them with Reiki

Higher Levels

If you want to practice Reiki on clients then you will need Reiki II training, this level involves the use of symbols so that you can perform Mental/Emotional healings and Remote Healing for distant healing and healing past and future events.

Master/Teacher Levels

These levels are only needed if you want to pass on attunements to others and provide workshops of your own. You may also learn other enhanced methods on this level, I learned about psychic surgery, crystal grids and other healing symbols but each master has their own ways of teaching and content of courses.

So that’s a short introduction to Reiki and hopefully you understand a bit more about it. If you want to know more about Reiki there are loads of websites and books available on the subject and I also plan to write more in-depth articles about it in the future. I would also like to run workshops and attune people to Reiki if I get enough people interested or even start my own website with online training and attunements.

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Acknowledging the Bad to Appreciate the Good


I’m still working on my health and fitness regime which is up and down depending on my energy levels and how busy I’ve been.    For example, with the arrival of the lovely spring weather I’ve spent a lot more time working in the garden, mainly weeding but planting summer bulbs and seeds too.   However, at the end of the day I find myself wondering why I’m in so much pain.   Then I remember how I’ve been getting up and down off the floor, using my arms to help myself and my hands digging up those deep roots.  


It doesn’t take a lot of work to feel like you’ve ran a marathon when you have fibromyalgia.  I’m so determined not to identify myself with the condition that I forget that this is what causes the symptoms I get.   So I thought give you a little bit of insight into how fibromyalgia impacts my life.


One of the main symptoms is widespread pain.   I consider myself luckier than many because I’m not in constant agonising pain and relying on pain medication to function.   However, I suffer with painful stiffness most of the time, it’s worse in the mornings after being in bed all night and in the evenings after resting, it’s like I turn to stone when I’m still for too long and I feel like a rusty tin man trying to get up and walk.   

I have problems with my knees, I struggle to get down on the floor and getting up from a chair can be agonising, I’m not sure if this is fibromyalgia or not.  The numerous times I’ve been to a doctor over the years, they examine me and say there is nothing wrong, they won’t even send me for x-rays or scans.   I’ve had physio but that didn’t help.   I know losing weight will reduce the stress put on them and that’s all part of the plan but sometime exercise is very painful.

The rest of the pain I get is more a feeling of being bruised all over, any pressure can be felt right down to my bones.   When I use the blood pressure monitor, the inflated band causes excruciating pain, as though it was a metal clamp with nails penetrating the skin.  At my worst I get random stabbing pains and any area I’ve been putting stress on through work or exercise is very painful, I get hot tingling sensations occasionally from my sacrum area up to my waist and very restless.

I don’t like taking medication and try to avoid painkillers if I can help it.   I can’t take anti-inflammatories anymore due to the heart medication I’m on so all I can take is paracetamol which I will take if its too difficult to sleep etc.   I try to manage with Epsom salt baths and homemade pain relief oils with essential oils.

The main thing I focus on is that it is only temporary, I’m not in this state constantly and I’m very grateful for that.  


I think this is the worst part of it, my energy levels are very low most of the time.  If I do feel particularly energetic, I have to be very careful not to overdo it and clean the whole house or do two hours in the gym.  It’s so tempting when you feel good to just get all those tasks out of the way but if I don’t pace myself I will crash and end up having to rest for far longer.  The frustrating thing about this is no matter how many times you tell people about your condition, they forget and don’t understand, notice or make allowances for you.   You end up feeling lazy and useless and feel that everyone thinks you are just making excuses, this can lead to trying to do more than you should so that you don’t feel judged and then end up in a worse situation having to recover from another flare up.   Anyone with an ‘invisible’ illness will understand this.


Fibromyalgia also causes brain fog so I get very forgetful and struggle to concentrate for long periods of time.  I have to remind myself of this too when I struggle with the French language and beat myself up for not trying harder to learn it.    If I don’t make a ToDo List I sometimes get a bit disorientate not knowing what to do because I have so many things I’m trying to do it can get overwhelming.  


I have a very sensitive sense of smell, I can’t tolerate artificial fragrances and any fowl smell is extreme, I can smell the cat’s little tray from the other side of the house.  My nose is constantly blocked but not congested, as though my airways have closed up which makes using the CPAP machine difficult.   I can’t stand very loud noises or the wind either, they make me very on edge and anxious.


There are things that make my condition worse and I try to be careful to avoid them or at least prepare myself for them, these are:

Mental/Emotional Stress:   Any form of stress puts me into a state where I find it difficult to function.   It could be having to deal with official matters, tax etc.  The vast amount of administration for the children’s education or sometimes healthcare.  Worries about financial security.  Unexpected change of plans that require me to take some form of action.

Lack of Sleep:   If I have a bad nights sleep my symptoms are quite often at their worst the following day which isn’t too bad if I don’t have plans, I just take it easy, but if I have to work, go to appointments or social engagements I find it extremely difficult.

Overwork:  Like I said earlier, too much exercise or manual labour cause a flare up.    Even though it’s essential to exercise for my heart and weight control, too much physical work can have a detrimental effect.   It’s necessary to get the right balance.  If I pace myself, I may feel bad at the end of the day but usually recover by the next day.

Negativity:  All of these setbacks can lead to spiralling negative thoughts and feelings.   Frustration leads to despair to feeling useless, feeling trapped in a cyclone of obstacles.  There have been times when I have given in to self-pity, feeling alone in my world of pain.  No matter what I try nothing improves.   The exhaustion has sometimes got to a point where I wish I could go to sleep for weeks and wake up healed.  You start to believe the judgement of medical professionals.  They all tell me to lose weight ‘eat less and move more’ as if I didn’t know that.  During my last visit to the doctor I told her how desperate I was to lose weight but that it was difficult having a family to cater for too and she simply said ‘children don’t need biscuits either’!!!!   I didn’t have the energy to explain that it wasn’t the unhealthy snacking but that sometimes I can’t even think about what to make for dinner let alone have the energy to prepare it so I let the family cater for themselves and eat whatever is easy.  I felt she would just think I was making excuses and no one will take me seriously until I lose a lot of weight.  These negative scenarios do not help me in any way, just make me want to give up.


Generally, I am a very positive person though.  I am a complementary therapist, I go to healing workshops and study various other healing methods and still believe that life is good and will be even better.   But I also have a shadow side and even the most positive person can feel sorry for themselves.   I don’t always practice what I preach and have never tried to be a saint or guru etc. 

I truly believe that we have a purpose in life, or that we can create one.  My passion is Self-Healing, Therapy Work and Writing and this is what this blog is about.  

Putting myself out there and sharing my journey helps me to centre myself and get back on the right track.


The healing methods I’m focussing on are the ones I write articles on, you can find them in the menu at the top of the page.  I’m also studying other therapies for my business that will have a positive effect on my own wellbeing too.

After recently seeing other people go through problems where I was not able to help such victims of wars, poverty and ill health, I felt very sad.   But I reflected on it for a while and decided that even though I can acknowledge these matters and help in whatever way I can like, donating money or clothing, sending healing etc.  If there is nothing else I can do, then I need to focus on the things I can control.  These things are my own personal health, finding ways to earn a better living, work in the garden, continue my studies and find time for my creative hobbies.   I am so fortunate that I have so many options no matter how I’m feeling physically.

One way to help others and myself is by reaching out to them by writing this blog and putting positive posts on social media.   When I write a post or article, I get inspired to take action myself because I feel more optimistic and enthusiastic about the subjects I’m exploring.

A healing method I’m writing about now is ‘Forgiveness’, I wont talk about it too much here because I will publish it at the same time as this post.   But it’s one of the best ways to release emotions that are locked in your body and mind enabling you to move forward.

So I’m going finish off this post by making a commitment to keep practicing gratitude, acceptance, self compassion, and overcome my self-limiting beliefs, by practicing what I preach!

I hope you found this article interesting and useful. If you like this take look at some of my other pages where I talk about different therapies. If you’d like to see my future content then please enter your email and press subscribe below and you will be alerted when I publish anything new. Also, as this is a new website I would love to hear your opinions and suggestions about what I write and you can make comments at the bottom of the page. Thank You for taking the time to read this. Until next time, I wish you all the very best. Janet x

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Feeling Optimistic

This week I decided to make a concerted effort to take control of my health and wellbeing.   I’ve been working towards it for months by gradually introducing healthier habits and now I’m implementing a regime to get me over the first hurdle for the next couple of weeks.  The ones that seem to have worked best for me health wise as well as for weight loss are Keto and Intermittent Fasting.   The keto diet helps to kick start me into dropping those unhealthy carbs and reducing my appetite and only eating during an 8 hour period helps me to stop grazing and late night snacking.  

However, after four days on the keto diet I hit a brick wall energy wise which is probably due to the lack of salt. This time hasn’t been any different and when I started to feel weak, I decided to take my blood pressure with a machine I bought when I was diagnosed with arrhythmia last year. I was alarmed to see that I was just one level below the extreme danger mark! I did a bit of research and it is quite normal for this diet to have an effect on your blood pressure and it can cause episodes of arrhythmia and increased blood pressure, this is because the diet can disrupt your electrolytes and you need to increase your sodium, magnesium and potassium levels. I already take supplements and after I drank a lot more water and took more salt and my heart rate stabilised. I struggle to maintain a keto diet for more than a few weeks anyway and I can’t take the risk of it affecting my heart. But being overweight is also having a very detrimental effect on my health though, so with this in mind I’m looking to adjust to a more of a Mediterranean style diet which may be better for my condition.

I’ve lost a couple of pounds in a week though but now I’m looking up recipes to make sure I don’t affect my heart rhythm in a detrimental way and still lose weight. I don’t want to go back to eating bread and pastry though as this is what I ate far too much of before. So the search goes on to find the right way but hopefully it won’t be too long before I feel like I’m on the right track.

Illnesses in the home

Last week my daughter tested positive for Covid-19 and had to stay home and my son also had the flu.   They were both isolating in different rooms most of the time and my daughter wore a mask when in the same room so fortunately, I don’t seem to have caught anything from them and they haven’t shared their illnesses with each other  or my husband. They were both quite ill though, my daughter had had symptoms the previous week at school (she boards so only home at weekends) and mainly suffered with a cough, headache and exhaustion. My son was worse with the flu and spent the first three days in bed with a fever, body aches and exhaustion. We all got tested at the lab mid week and their conditions were confirmed. They are all better now though and have returned to school today so I can start focusing on myself again.


I’ve really been enjoying the Zumba and Figure 8 workouts so I will continue with them but I’d also like to do a short daily morning routine, when I say short, I mean only 5-10 minutes of Yoga stretches or something to set me up for the day.    Something I can make into a habit every morning when I get out of bed.   I’m going to look up some chi gong or tai chi moves that will energise me and help with flexibility too as I am always very stiff in the mornings.   If you are familiar with Donna Eden’’s Energy Medicine techniques there are a lot of routines you can use with this too.  So once I’ve decided on a routine I have to find way to remind myself to do it, it’s said that it takes three weeks to establish a habit so maybe a checklist is required to start with until it become part of my normal morning routine like cleaning my teeth.

Working with Energy

I haven’t been very busy with my therapy work what with people being ‘Covid contact cases’ clients and myself included; but, I recently did a lovely Reiki session with a client   and after the treatment I really felt like I wanted to work more in this area.  It isn’t a therapy I often promote as I concentrate more on Reflexology or Massage but I feel drawn to working more with energy.  I already take part in a monthly healing group with some likeminded friends, it started with Reiki but we share lots of different ideas and methods and its really inspirational and therapeutic too.  With this in mind I’m going to add Reiki and Chakra balancing to the treatments I offer and I’m enrolling a few other courses to complement and add more depth to the treatments I offer.  

I also take part in three monthly workshops a friend of mine does on Shamanic Healing and Spiritual Counselling. I’ve found these to be very beneficial in overcoming some of my own insecurities and also being a better therapist to my clients.


One area I’ve been particularly interested in for many years actually, is Manifestation.   You may also know it as ‘The Law of Attraction’, ‘Cosmic Ordering System’ or ‘The Secret’.   I bought an online package called ‘Manifestation Magic’ a few years ago, it mainly comprises of a selection of Meditations to help raise your vibration to attract the things you want into your life.    My issue was that I couldn’t let go of the self doubt and sceptical thoughts no matter how much I tried to be positive.

A couple of things you need to manifest is first to know exactly what you want and then really be able to visualise it so that it feels real and believable. To let go of desire and needs because these identify your feelings of lacking something and what you focus on you attract.

So, I need to be specific about what I want and work on overcoming my own obstacles. I know I want to be fit and healthy, I want to be fluent in French, I want to be successful in my work and secure in my relationships etc. I am already working on the negative thinking and beliefs and I feel I’m doing really well in this area. I’m still using the ‘Five Second Rule’ that I talked about in my last post and finding that I have far greater control over my thoughts and feelings because of this and also getting more done.

I’ve also been listening to one of the meditations when I go to bed and since doing this I’ve noticed I’m acting on articles or advertisements I see relating to self healing and therapies. I feel more enthusiastic about studying and I’ve recommenced courses that I enrolled in over a year ago that got put aside or forgotten. These courses include a different form of Reiki and Quantum Healing etc and will not only help with my own healing but also be able to enhance the work I already do.

As if all the courses I’m doing are not enough, I am also enrolling on a course that came to my attention very recently and I feel it will greatly compliment the work I already do. It’s called Facial Emotional Therapy, here is a brief extract of what it’s about:

Facial Emotional Therapy is a gentle non-invasive treatment, designed specifically to work in sync with the nervous system, giving the opportunity to experience peace and rejuvenation through sensitive touch and soothing strokes over the meridian system. Working directly on the face, head, and neck accesses many of the significant energy points relating to the various systems of the body, clearing stress levels and emotional blockages allowing relaxation and clarity of mind to take place. The entire body experiences a deep and profound state of bliss. This therapy merges techniques drawn from physiotherapy, kinesiology, facial harmony, brain gym, energy healing, remedial massage, and reflexology‘.

I’m really looking forward to doing this course in particular as it is an accredited and recommended course by the IICT (International Institute of Complementary Therapists) of which I am a member so I will definitely be able to offer this to clients.

Attention Span

I’ll be focussing on keeping up with all the things I’ve talked about above, it seems quite a lot and one of the symptoms of fibromyalgia I experience is not being able to concentrate for long periods of time. This is why I have so many things I like to do but become overwhelmed sometimes. The way I’m going to deal with this is to dedicate a limited amount of time to different subjects. Like at school you would go from one class to another, this is how I am going to approach learning the different subjects and also incorporate new habits and hobbies. That way I’m hoping to be able to progress slowly in each area because I won’t get bogged down on one thing to the point were I can’t focus. Ideally I will alternate between studying and more physical work like exercise and my normal day to day routines of shopping, housework and cooking.

Talking of attention span, I know myself how difficult it is to focus and read long articles so I’m going to finish here. Before my next update I will try to write my next article on either Gratitude or Forgiveness. If you haven’t looked at any of my articles yet take a look at the menu and see if anything interests you. I find all of these subject are helping me get to where I want to be and hope you will find them useful too.

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Being a Tortoise instead of a Hare

Positive Little Changes


I have been making small changes in my habits that I’m hoping will become natural instincts in my daily routine. I haven’t started a ‘diet’ as such and I am reluctant to do that because I’ve done it all before and even though it works it has to be maintained for life so I really just want to change my habits.

I haven’t lost weight but I’m gradually changing my eating habits and have a healthy breakfast and lunch to start with. This doesn’t meant I eat pizza for dinner though (only occasionally) but I may still have a desert or snack afterwards. I’m incorporating more of the low calorie meals from the Pinch of Nom books and Slimming Eats websites because the whole family enjoy them.

I did go without alcohol for about five weeks and now only have it at the weekend or if we occasionally eat out for lunch.


I’ve started doing a weekly Zumba workout with a friend which encourages me to do a longer sessions than I would on my own. I also manage to fit in shorter exercise sessions in between, so even if I don’t do a full workout I’m still doing more than I was before and I’m improving each time. I suffer from knee pain which makes a lot of the movements difficult but it seems to be less restrictive each time. I listen to my body and if I’ve been too still for too long I get up and move. I’ll do a short workout, take a walk or even l do some standing crunches from the Figure 8 workouts whilst cleaning my teeth or waiting for the kettle to boil etc. It’s not much yet, but every little helps.


It’s a couple of weeks since I updated my blog but I have written a couple of articles. I’m not sure if people get alerted to them being published like they do with the blog but you can find them here:

I still have three more articles to write on the subjects that I said I would go into more detail about in my last post, these are:

I will be adding these in the next few weeks and will update this post with the links when they are published.


I have a few creative hobbies that I enjoy and have a few small projects on the go. I started macramé last year and enjoyed making lots of Christmas decorations and wall hangings. Also a couple of years ago I decided to make Christmas gifts for family in the UK, I made a selection of things like tote bags, jewellery and even some homemade balms and incense etc. I also made dreamcatchers and suncatchers and enjoyed making these so much I started to make a lot more. I’m trying to add this activity to my business so that I can eventually sell them. Also I’ve been practicing making beads with polymer clay, I used to do this years ago and saw some clay for sale recently so thought I might make a bit of jewellery for myself.

Currently I’m finishing off a few embroidery projects too. I love making gifts for people but rarely finish off things I start for myself so I’ve decided I need to do this as part of a self-nurturing process. I started embroidering a Shamanic Medicine Wheel a couple of years ago and as I still attend workshops in this field I am focussing on finishing it before I start anything else. I will publish a photo of it when it’s complete.


I have lots of online courses, podcasts and videos that I intend to get around to when I have the time and since one of my recent articles was about time management, I realised that I didn’t talk about Multi-Tasking. I often multi-task when doing housework but I decided to do this with recreational things too, like listen to podcasts whilst walking the dog and loading up my YouTube playlists whilst doing some embroidery. The good thing about algorithms is that you discover new material in the areas of interest you have and in my recommendations were videos of ‘Mel Robbin’s 5 Second Rule’.

5 Second Rule

In brief the system explained in the video is simply counting down from five to one to motivate you into action. The video explains how to use it and the book that you can find in the links on the sidebar goes into more detail of how to use for different purposes. At the moment I’m using it to stop negative thoughts, as soon as I recognise my mind drifting into areas that eventually bring me down, e.g. reliving how someone may have upset me in the past, I count down 5,4,3,2,1 and stop thinking about it. Also when I suddenly lose the motivation to do something that I really want to do I count down and do it anyway. It’s quite subtle, you don’t suddenly get an overwhelming impulse to do something but it stops you spiralling and can do it anyway even if you don’t feel like it. The more I’ve been doing it the less I’ve needed to use it. For example, during times of exhaustion and more pain from the fibromyalgia, just getting up out of a chair can be a real struggle and leads me to put off doing things, so I used the 5 second rule and did it anyway. I’ve since noticed that I don’t even need to count and I’m responding naturally to getting up to go and get something or do something without the fear of pain or the voice in my head saying I’m too tired.

Spring is in the air

Daffodils in my Garden

It seems like winter is never ending, although we are at the end of March we’ve had continuous gale force winds for the last couple of weeks, I really don’t like the wind, I hate the sound of it howling around the house, it chills me to the bone. I don’t mind a gentle breeze in the summer, but the bitter cold blasts we’ve had recently I can do without. However, they seem to be dispersing and I’m hoping to get out into the garden next week to get it ready for the summer. I find gardening very therapeutic, it can be quite meditative and being in nature is very good for the soul so that is more multi-tasking I can look forward to.

You Tube

I’ve mentioned before that I have a YouTube channel, at the moment there are a few meditation videos on there with lovely musical soundtracks. I am in the process of creating my own guided meditations and I’m looking to put together some of my own background music as I’ve heard of a lot of scams where royalty free music is changed once it’s embedded into peoples video and people having to then pay a ridiculous amount for the copyright or lose any monetisation from it. I don’t want to spend ages making a video only to have to take it down and re-do it if it gets popular.

I also have a few other ideas for the channel and that is to do some demonstrations of the therapies I provide and also some instructional videos on self massage and reflexology etc.

I also thought of doing a few personal updates on my progress with health and fitness. This is something I will have to pluck up courage to do though, but eventually I hope to get there. You can see my channel by following one of the links on the side bar and when I do my personal videos I’ll link to them in future posts.

Tortoise and the Hare

As the heading of this post suggests I’m making slow and gradual progress (tortoise), in the past I’ve enthusiastically thrown myself into regimes and do really well to start with (hare) but I get distracted and don’t continue with my efforts. I hope that by taking things slow and steady, gradually introducing new habits, I can make long term changes that will produce the results I want and be able to maintain them.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. If you like this article please take look at some of my other pages or blog posts where I talk about different therapies and my own wellbeing journey and if you’d like to see future posts then please enter your email address and click on the subscribe button below and you will be notified of future content. I have no plans to use your email address for any other purpose. Feel free to share my page with anyone you feel may be interested and if you have any feedback about what I write or suggestions for further articles then please use the comment box further down the page. Warmest Wishes, Janet x

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Obstacles and Distractions

I started this blog to share my progress on the goals I’ve set myself on overcoming physical limitations, losing weight and improving my overall wellbeing.    My intention was that by sharing with you my schedule and progression, I will be motivated to stay on track as well as inspire others to achieve their goals.

What has held me back in the past has been the inability to focus and commit to my own needs because of ‘life getting in the way’.  The distractions of unexpected events and demands on our attention and time lead us to forget the new positive habits we wanted to incorporate into our lifestyles.


These last two weeks have been a perfect example of this; for a start it’s the school holidays and whilst my children are now teenagers and don’t want me to spend time with them like when they were younger, they still need taking to appointments, shopping trips for school books or clothes, taxiing to social events and obviously providing more meals which means, more time shopping and preparing and cleaning etc.  Another distraction has been building work at the house so lots of mess and noise.   So, I’ve been immersed in trying to keep on top of the normal day to day routines, delegate chores to reluctant teenagers, rearrange clients to fit into less chaotic noisy time frames and taking my children to school meetings and driving lessons and so on.   I’ve managed to do a few things for myself like a little bit of gardening, writing blog articles and a bit of creative work such as embroidery, macramé and wire art which I’ve tried to combine with listening to audio podcasts or relaxing watching TV etc.  


I’ve mentioned in previous posts that I suffer from fibromyalgia and this is my major obstacle because the effect of doing too much leads me suffer from a flare up where I am in so much pain and feel so exhausted it’s a struggle to not only prepare a simple meal but also the brain fog that goes along with it means I struggle to even come up with an idea of what to make in the first place.  In an ideal world I would have lots of pre-prepared meals that can be heated up easily by any member of the family. 

There are lots of distractions and excuses that prevent us achieving what we set out to do. Unless you have a perfect work/life balance with a good support network and no financial insecurities then there will always be something that doesn’t meet our needs and desires. We also know people who seem to be able to organise their lives and be super-efficient, self-disciplined, high achievers or super-mums who make us feel like inadequate failures.   However, we shouldn’t compare ourselves to others, what you see on the surface isn’t necessarily the truth, we can’t know what other people are dealing with and what it would be like in their shoes.  We are our own worse judges and critics and beat ourselves up over our mistakes and setbacks.


With all this in mind I thought I’d also address the setbacks that hinder our progress and look at various ways we can deal with them to overcome some of the obstacles that get in our way. Rather than address all these issues here I’m going to break them down into individual posts.  Some of the subjects I’m planning on writing about are listed below (in no particular order), as I publish them I’ll also add a link to them, if I can work out how to do that. This is what I have in mind:

A lot of the topics will be related to my own issues and the methods I have used or intend to use on my wellbeing journey and will also complement the articles on different therapies I’m interested in.   You can find lots of self-help books and webpages on these subjects but you can also get overwhelmed with the amount of information out there so I’m going try to write brief, easy to read posts that will hopefully be useful to you.

And Finally

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First Slow Step to Better Health

We are in the first week of February already and I feel like I’ve been in a complete blur for the last month. I used to find January and February the most depressing time of year. It’s the middle of winter so the weather is usually cold and often wet and dreary. The aftermath Christmas holidays can be a bit deflating, all parties and excitement have ended and there’s nothing to look forward to except going back to work etc.

That changed for me after having my daughter in January (many years ago). I actually look forward to taking the Christmas decorations down now and instead of feeling like the place looks sparse and dull, I feel like the rooms are more airy and even a little bigger without all the tinsel, trees and various other festive decorations cluttering the place up. Within a couple of weeks the house has birthday banners, balloons and cards on display and it’s time for birthday celebrations, cake making and teenage sleepovers. It isn’t easy starting healthy habits during this time so I gave myself permission to start mid January instead of the beginning this year.

I consider the phase I’m in at the moment a ‘weaning’ stage where I ease myself into the New Year gently. It sounds like excuses I know, but by allowing myself to go slowly it takes the pressure off trying to start out with too many changes and restrictions or imposing strict exercise plans where there is a high risk of failing and giving up too soon.

So I started the year by being more mindful of what I eat, we all have left over festive foods and treats still tempting us, not to mention two birthday cakes (teenage girls deserve at least two celebrations apparently!). So I didn’t deny myself a slice of cake and glass of wine but I also didn’t eat cake with every meal or drink every night. I started my ‘dry January’ halfway through but decided I would continue it until the end of February to make up for it. I’ve founds some lovely alternative that make me feel like I’m not depriving myself. The ones in the image below are a few of my favourites, I also like herbal teas and fizzy water from my soda stream and so far I’m not really missing alcohol that much.


So that is the alcohol taken care of. Food hasn’t been as good but I am easing myself into it so I’m making some of my favourite recipes from various diets I’ve done in the past and trying to make sure I eat a lot of fruit and vegetables with the meals, also only having one portion of bread or cereal a day. One of my favourite recipes for breakfast is banana pancakes, these are delicious and don’t use up any of my bread or dairy allowances. I can’t remember where I found the recipe and I tweaked it a little anyway so I will give you the recipe here:

I’m also trying to use up the contents at the bottom of my freezer to make room for when I really get organised and start batch cooking! I’ve enjoyed making frozen cauliflower bakes and frozen mushroom soup to name a few. Tonight will be chicken stir fry with noodles. It’s best to cook from scratch rather than convenience food because you can control what ingredients you use and you can usually find great healthy alternatives. Even though I have many cookery books I often just search google for healthy versions of popular dishes.


As I love dancing and the weather is far too cold to use the pool or the gym equipment in the unheated barn, I’ve focussed my exercise on using a Zumba DVD and I’ve also bought the online Figure 8 basic package by Body FX.

Both the Figure 8 and the Zumba are based on Latin American dances and are a lot of fun to do. They are very high energy but you can go at your own pace and build up in your own time. A lot of the focus is on hip movement and abdominal crunches but it’s a whole body workout too.

I’m enjoying the classes and can manage short routines and have to make sure I don’t try to push myself too much until I overcome some of my health obstacles.


I have found the main problem I have is the pain in my knees during exercise. So now I’m also looking at ways to help with that as many of the dance routines use a variety of squats and lunges too. I’ve made by own pain and inflammation reducing oil using frankincense, myrrh, ginger and wintergreen essential oils, you can find many recipes on the internet to make various remedies and I’ve been collecting essential oils for years and now putting them to good use. I’ve also bought some tiny magnets that you stick on painful areas but haven’t noticed any positive results yet, I may need to look more into the correct placement of the magnets to see if I get better results.

It’s an uphill battle at the moment but, no matter how difficult, I’m optimistic that perseverance and pacing myself will eventually ease any problems as I become lighter and fitter.

Before starting these workouts I used and still intend to use workouts on YouTube by Dr. Bri who does exercise routines for Pelvic Health. While the exercises are for improving pelvic floor muscles they are really great for loosening up your hips and toning your stomach muscles. They are low impact exercises using figure 8 belly dance movements. This is a great alternative to use on days when I’m in more pain or feeling less energetic.


One essential area I am focussing on at the moment is to improve the quality of the sleep I get because it is during the deep sleep cycle when the body repairs itself and I’ve struggled with insomnia most of my life and although I can get to sleep OK now I have developed the habit of waking up to use the toilet two or three times a night. Sometimes I can get back to sleep but not always. I was diagnosed with sleep apnea last year and I’m currently trying to adjust to using a CPAP machine, I’m finding it easier but for some reason I always seem to get a blocked nose at night so I’m woken up by the air leaking out of the mask making lovely hissing and farting noises not to mention the cold air blasting into my eyes. Luckily this doesn’t happen every night and it does seem to be improving.

I bought a new fitness watch last week and according to that I’m getting over 3 hours of deep sleep each night which compared to my old watch is at least two hours more than before (I suspect one watch is not as accurate but I’d prefer to believe the new one!)

One thing I have changed is to load my MP3 player with motivating meditations and audio books and setting it to play all night. I’m asleep before the first one finishes but I’m hoping that the words in the meditations still get through to my subconscious mind while I sleep. Have a look at my article on meditation if you’d like to know more about the subject. It’s a free tool you can use and adapt to use anywhere at anytime to help you cope with stress and negative emotions, there are many forms of meditation so you are sure to find something that works for you. Another tool is EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique and I will be posting an article about that soon so keep an eye out for it.


So the progress so far is slow, I took all my measurements two weeks ago and started exercising and eating healthier.

It’s too soon to notice any results so I haven’t measured myself since but I’ve lost two or three pounds in weight which is a positive sign as I still intend to build on the regime I have in place.

I will hopefully have before and after pictures but I’d like to wait until there is actually a noticeable ‘after’ picture to share with you. Until the next update you can click on any of the icons below to see my Facebook, YouTube and Instagram pages to see other content that you may find interesting. I have two Facebook pages; one is my business page ‘Solistic Therapies’ where you will find links to videos on self reflexology and acupressure techniques and the other page ‘Healing Myself from Fibromyalgia’ has articles that I’ve shared on the subject. My YouTube channel is quite new and only has a few meditation tracks on there at the moment but I’m working on some of my own guided meditations that will be added soon so if you’d like to try them please subscribe to my channel to see future content.

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